Energy Management: How to Have Time to Meet Eastern European Women

So, you are busy. Perhaps you have a high-profile job which requires you to work 60 hours a week. Or maybe you are an ambitious entrepreneur who works 90 hours per week. No matter how busy you are, right now you’re reading this article, which means you are looking to find time in order to meet women from Eastern Europe. You may want to take some notes now.

Understand the Pareto principle.

According to Tim Ferriss, the Pareto principle says 80% of your results come from 20% of your actions. This is a bummer and liberating all at the same time, as you realize how much time and energy you have wasted and you also realize how little you may actually need to put in effort so as to get the results you want.

Thought leader Kate Northrup argues that your vital few are the few things that you and only you can do in your work life which move the needle forward the most when it comes to getting you closer to your goals, driving revenue or whatever other measure of career success is appropriate. In other words, your vital few are the several actions that you take which lead to 80% of your results at work.

In order to have time to meet Eastern European women online, you would be well-advised to identify your vital few. Here is how to do it:

1. Draw a line lengthwise down the center of a piece of paper.
2. On the left side, list all tasks and activities that you do at work. Be specific.
3. On the right side, list your biggest wins to date in your career.
4. Draw a line connecting each of your biggest wins to the task or activity which was most responsible for it happening.
5. Underline the tasks/activities on the left side which have been responsible for your big career wins. These activities/tasks are your vital few (your 20%).

Obviously, once you’ve identified your vital few, you will know which tasks and activities should be priorities in your work and you will also know which activities/tasks are wasting your time. Now you can get rid of time-wasting activities and tasks at work if it’s possible. (Source: Do Less, book written by Kate Northrup, founder and CEO of Origin Collective)

Then you will have time to meet ladies from Eastern Europe online and offline. Better still, you can have more time for yourself, e.g. Me Time, hobbies, quality time with family and friends, and so on. This will make you a more interesting man that Eastern European ladies like as well. If you only talk about your work when you are on a date with an Eastern European woman, she will probably be bored. Remember: Women are attracted to multi-dimensional men.

In the long term, please aim toward spending 80% of your time on your vital few in the future. Don’t forget to stay vigilant and rebuild your boundaries around your time and energy as often as you can. Then you will be amazed by how much more time and energy you have at work and in your life, how fast your anger & frustration disappear and how much more you get done in a significantly shorter period of time.

Note that you may write down your vital few on a post-it note on your desk. And regularly review how much time you are really spending on your vital few. This will remind you of the 80/20 rule over time.

It is wonderful how much simply being aware of the 80/20 rule helps you get solid boundaries around your time and energy. In this way, you will have much less decision fatigue as you will know what does and doesn’t belong to your schedule. You will find saying no much easier, so you will say no more quickly and more gracefully. Moreover, you will make progress faster when you don’t waste your time on low-leverage activities or things that others are better suited for – just learn to delegate! I know delegating tasks to someone else isn’t the easiest thing to do in the world. However, there isn’t any inherent value in busyness. You’d better focus on what is and isn’t a meaningful use of your time, thereby freeing yourself from the tyranny of “shoulds”. Clearly, you don’t have to load on top of existing challenges doing work that you are not suited for – life gives you enough challenges without you trying to prove your worth through doing frustrating, irritating and draining work. It’s time to make your work a source of replenishment and joy, okay?

If it’s not scheduled, it’s not real.

Let’s say you’ve decided to spend one hour every day on Eastern European women dating websites in order to meet Eastern European ladies. In this case, you probably should write this down in your calendar or diary so that you will actually do it.

American author Marie Forleo famously said, “If it’s not scheduled, it’s not real.” Indeed, when something is not included in your schedule, you possibly won’t do it because you are a busy man and you already have 1,001 things to do.

Hence, you should totally have a diary or an electronic calendar which helps you to organize your work and your life.

Of course, this depends on your time zone because chances are your time zone is different from Eastern European time zone. Thus, you need to check the time difference when you are arranging time for online conversations with Eastern European women.

Spending time on Eastern European women dating sites may become a part of your vital few.

I don’t believe in work/life balance because I believe in work-life integration instead. By that I mean when my work and my life are completely separated, I feel that I have two personas, which is exhausting. Michael Johnson (AKA the mojo master) once said, “Having more than one persona in life is very draining – multiple personas in life can become energy vampires. When you have more than one persona, you always need to switch to the other persona frequently – the activation energy consumes you.” Therefore, I choose work-life integration, not work/life balance.

Frankly, work/life balance is probably a lie in this day and age when we have access to the Internet/emails 24/7 – work never ends in many cases.

Hence, as I see it, your vital few may include tasks and activities that belong to your personal life if you also believe in work-life integration and having one persona only. Hence, you may list meeting Eastern European women as a part of your 20% (a high-leverage activity that brings you happiness).

What do you think in terms of this time management technique? Please write a comment below and let me know. I will definitely appreciate your input in this aspect.

“When you face overwhelm and a very long to-do list, you’d better nip it in the bud by getting refocused on your 20%, i.e. your vital few. In this way, you will have enough time and energy to do what actually matters to you – meeting Eastern European ladies.”