How to be truly happy and attract Eastern European women

I know this topic (how to be happy) is too broad. But “how to be happy” is most people’s primary question in this day and age when the pandemic is ongoing right now. In truth, I don’t think life is actually about being happy all the time. In my opinion, life is about growth and learning from your experiences. When you have a growth mindset rather than a fixed mindset, you will attract Eastern European women naturally.

• What does a therapeutic life look like?

Some people think that they should heal themselves after being damaged due to previous trauma. As I see it, everyone is damaging, being damaged and healing pretty much at the same time. Please let me explain.

When you go to the gym, you do physical exercise which may lead to sore muscles after the workout. That’s because your muscles are slightly damaged during the exercise. And that’s exactly why many personal trainers say “moving is healing”. In other words, in order to help your muscles to grow stronger, tiny damage is necessary. Meanwhile, you have some rest after leaving the gym, so that’s healing.

Hopefully this metaphor makes sense. In reality, most people are damaging, being damaged and healing almost at the same time. For instance, a few years ago, I had a challenging job which required me to work extremely hard. I didn’t sleep well and had to work almost 7 days a week at that time. But because of that experience, I discovered traditional Chinese herbal therapy which healed me. After that, traditional Chinese herbal therapy and acupuncture have become useful things in my toolbox. I’m sure without that difficult experience, I wouldn’t even pay attention to acupuncture and traditional Chinese herbal therapy in the first place.

• When you’re a happy man, you can attract ladies from Eastern Europe.

What if you have childhood trauma?

Well, realistically, many people have childhood trauma because that’s actually quite common. You aren’t the only person in the world who suffers from childhood trauma. Someone recently said, “Lucky people use their childhood to heal their lifetime; unlucky people use their lifetime to heal their childhood.” Nevertheless, that’s not really true. Let me explain.

A river starts somewhere. If the origin of the river is polluted, you might see some of the pollutants in the river when you observe 1 million miles away from its origin. Nonetheless, the water in the river has definitely changed because it has become different from the water in its origin – many other things entered the river along the way as well. That is to say, the river doesn’t stay the same and isn’t defined by its origin.

Similarly, your childhood doesn’t define you because you’ve had other experiences in your life, too. Your job is to create positive experiences in life so that you can condition your emotions now.

Dr Claire Weekes even claimed that people who have anxiety don’t need to deal with their childhood trauma because they are able to recover from anxiety without dealing with their childhood trauma. That means dealing with childhood trauma isn’t even necessary in her opinion. This is a modern approach to treating anxiety and has been proven to be effective. Instead of dwelling on your childhood trauma, why not create new and positive experiences in life?

In addition, you can think about what you enjoyed doing when you were a child. I’m sure you had some interests and hobbies when you were 4 or 5 years old. I remember when I was a child, I loved drawing pictures, music, languages and writing. Artistic expression has been very important to me since my childhood. The other day I was looking at some old photos in the family photo album, and I noticed that I also loved jewelry when I was a child because in many photos, I was wearing beautiful jewelry. Hence, I’ve decided to buy myself some jewelry in 2022 – that’s also a part of artistic expression which excites me.

Like many people, I have childhood trauma as well. I survived from domestic violence and eating disorder. My childhood was hard. Yet that’s the exact reason why I have a tremendous understanding of life. I’ve been living a therapeutic life. Actually, according to my observation, women are more likely to live a therapeutic lifestyle because women often have therapeutic activities in life, e.g., yoga, brunch with friends, dance, etc. Many women want to dance because they feel the need to dance (even when they are at home). But how many men have physical expression in their daily life?

Because most Eastern European women live therapeutic lives (they aren’t competing with men), they are more feminine and traditional than western women. I’m sure you will love Eastern European ladies’ femininity and values.

By the way, many women in Eastern Europe want to leave their home countries because of domestic violence. They have survived and are now thriving. They look forward to meeting genuine gentlemen who are willing to build real relationships.

“What really makes you truly happy? Try to do that every single day!”