How to manage jealousy in international relationships

Jealousy exists in most relationships because it’s just a part of human nature, no matter we want to admit it or not. Luckily, usually, Eastern European ladies aren’t jealous. But it’s always good to know how to manage jealousy anyway! ?

• Jealousy is often caused by insecurity.

Paying someone else a compliment when you are in an international relationship shouldn’t be a cause for issues. If you are worried about irritating your girlfriend while complimenting another woman, there are possibly 2 reasons: 1) she is insecure; 2) you are doing it wrong.

For example, if you praise another woman such as a colleague (and your ex-wife), your girlfriend may raise her eyebrow, especially if it’s a physical compliment! Well, sometimes complimenting another woman’s personality or behavior can be tricky, too.

But of course, there are ways to deal with this situation. Let me show you how!

• You can always reposition your remark.

 Here are some very good examples:

1. “Tanya is a nice woman, but I only like a woman who fully understands me.”
2. “She is tall. But I always like petite women.”

That is to say, you can reposition your comment to give your girlfriend the validation and the attention. Also, you may even keep the tone teasing so that everyone knows you are not taking this too seriously. ?

• Help your partner to build more self-assurance.

If your girlfriend is angry because you paid someone else a compliment, note that it’s not an attack on you – it’s just an expression of her jealousy or insecurity.

It is your responsibility to make your girlfriend feel attractive and loved. When her security is solid, you will benefit from this international relationship. ?

Please note that in a perfectly healthy romantic relationship, your girlfriend should be okay with you complimenting other women. Therefore, at the early stage of an international relationship, you pay someone else a compliment and then suddenly your girlfriend feels a bit annoyed – now you have to immediately pre-frame the situation by saying, “Honey, no need to be ticked off when I compliment someone else – by now you should know I’m in love with you because you are confident.”

That means you should tell her what is acceptable behavior in this relationship and what isn’t acceptable. You are basically saying, “My girlfriend is supposed to act in a confident, cool way when I compliment other people because my girlfriend’s confidence is the most attractive personality trait.”

• If you are jealous….

Sometimes, you might feel jealous and insecure when your girlfriend pays someone else a compliment. When this happens, don’t panic. I have a solution for you:

The best way to maintain clarity in an international relationship is to never lose yourself. By that I mean you must have your own career, your interests and hobbies, your social circle and your ambitions – these wouldn’t change no matter you are in a relationship or not. All of these give you core confidence with or without a girlfriend!

I know many people find it quite hard to manage their careers these days due to the pandemic. A lot of individuals have lost their jobs because of COVID, so they are changing their careers entirely. Some university lecturers have become call center agents. Some restaurant managers have become retail sales consultants. Some people have to move cities in order to find a suitable job. This isn’t easy for most people because we are living in trying times. Nonetheless, no matter what, you would be well-advised to see this change as an opportunity that allows you to rethink your career plans. I know this is a blog about dating and international relationships; nevertheless, a man must have clarity before he can manage and enjoy a successful relationship!

“If you feel insecure in a relationship, you’d better focus on your self-assurance – Are you still enjoying your hobbies and interests? Do you have a career goal?”