How a Ukrainian wife changed his life

Steve is a western guy married to a Ukrainian wife. He says his story is very inspiring, so he would like to share that with us here today.

“My wife from Ukraine has made me think differently.”

If someone tells you that life will be nice and easy once you do XYZ, they must be lying to you. Period.

In reality, not everything in life is nice and pretty. It’s just the uncomfortable truth.

Everyone’s life is painful. You are not alone.

“The trick is not minding,” says Natalia, “You can only control so much in life. Life is not about what has happened to you; it’s about how you react to what has happened to you. Anxiety and stress come from trying to control what’s outside your control.”

Steve has been very impressed by his beautiful Ukrainian wife Natalia’s wisdom, and now he feels less anxious and less stressed.

When Steve was depressed, he was working for a company as a Chief Marketing Officer. He always wanted to be an entrepreneur rather than an employee, so he was constantly looking for a calling.

“It turns out that getting good at something is much more important than finding a calling,” says Stephen, “Because I have been successful with sales, marketing and negotiation when I was an employee, now I’m able to go wherever I want to go – my Ukrainian wife Natalia and I set up an Internet business together – because of the skills that I accumulated and honed when I was working for someone else, now we have a thriving business.”

Yes, getting good at something allows Steve to do something else. Just as human dynamics expert Matthew Hussey famously said, “Just do stuff, because stuff leads to stuff.”

“My Ukrainian lady helped me to create rituals around weaknesses.”

Steve was a very shy guy, so he didn’t have many friends. His Ukrainian wife Natalia decided to help him with his social life; therefore, she helped Steve create rituals around his weakness.

Every week, Natalia and Steve spend at least one hour socializing with other people. In fact, they have a weekly Happy Hour on Wednesday night and invite all of their friends.

Since Steve didn’t have a lot of friends and Natalia moved to Canada only a while ago, their initial Happy Hour only had 3 people (a neighbor and Stephen’s best friend & the best friend’s wife). But Natalia always asks these people to bring their friends next time.

In this way, their Happy Hour started to have more and more people because participants keep bringing their friends. Thus, nowadays their Happy Hour oftentimes has more than 30 people.

Steve’s social life has been transformed completely, from a shy guy to a confident guy with a large number of high-value friends.

“My network is my net worth,” says Steve, “In the past, I only had 1 friend who shares the same resources with me, so it wasn’t good for my career. But now I have so many interesting friends from very different backgrounds. Because of their contribution, my online business has taken off. Now it’s a very successful business.”

Thanks to his elegant wife from Ukraine, Steve’s life has become very, very, very, very different: His love life has become better; his career has become more successful; his social life has become more vibrant. Now Steve is a very happy man.

“The key to take action in any area of our lives is believing we have to.”