International dating doesn’t have to be complex, so long as you have understood the following key ideas. Truthfully, I call them the secret magic potion.
Your standards must match your skills in international dating.
I know the last thing that you want to hear is “have lower standards”. Yet that is the unpleasant truth. If your standards do not match your skills, you will not get the results you desire. Period.
So, the right question isn’t “Should I stick to my high standards?” I would argue that the right question is “How could I work on my skills?”
In life, you will not get what you deserve. You will just get what you negotiate. Don’t get me wrong. This isn’t a business transaction at all. It’s also not violating the Law of Reciprocity. Let me explain.
Know your boundaries
Your girlfriend will merely become a particular version of herself based on the boundaries you set at the beginning of the romantic relationship. If your girlfriend has done something very wrong, you might not even call her out earlier in the relationship just because you are concerned about losing her. She might assume that it is fine to violate your boundaries repeatedly. Therefore, how you deal with difficult situations in your love life shows what you are negotiating for.
To find a high-quality Ukrainian bride, quantity matters at the beginning of your journey. That means you should meet many potential candidates in the first place. If you choose one out of one option, it’s a lousy choice. By contrast, if you choose one out of a lot of options, you will find the right candidate faster. Having abundance is key.
Remember, you should always put yourself first. Without filling your cup first, you will not have the abundance to share your happiness with anyone else. In other words, you should be satisfied and happy before meeting the right candidate.
How to have a great first date in international dating:
We all know that the first impression is lasting. You just have one chance to make a fantastic first impression. So, the importance of a great first date is key, and let me show you exactly how you can have a memorable first date.
Firstly, just forget about the boring dinner date, which would only make you and your Ukrainian lady yawn. Historically and traditionally, most individuals prefer a romantic dinner date as their first date, which is fair enough. However, that is certainly not creative, in my opinion.
As I see it, the dinner date has a few obvious disadvantages:
1) When you are sitting in a restaurant with a total stranger for at least 2 or 3 hours, you must keep the conversation going, even if you don’t even have the chemistry.
2) A typical dinner date forces you to sit down with a person face-to-face. It’s just like an intimidating job interview. You can’t relax.
Hence, a much better first date is flexible and relaxing. You may meet your Ukrainian lady in a coffee shop, where you’ll spend 30–50 minutes. It all depends on whether you have chemistry or not. Let’s say Chemistry has a capital C. You should make the first date a bit longer. But if the chemistry is absent, you may end the first date earlier. It feels more casual and less stressful.
If the first date in the coffeehouse goes pretty well, you say to your Ukrainian lady, “Actually, there is a bookshop near this coffeehouse. I will find the book I mentioned just now. We should go to the bookshop now.” Now you can extend the first date by taking the lady to the bookshop nearby.
Or you may say to her, “There is an art gallery nearby. Let me take you there now.” If she likes you as well, she will want to go to the art gallery with you.
Note that these two examples do not include a question like, “Would you like to visit the art gallery or bookstore with me?” Remember, questions are not very powerful.
When you ask her a question, she has 2 questions on her mind:
A) “Can I go to the art gallery or bookshop with this guy?”
B) “Do I want to go to the art gallery or bookshop with this guy?”
But when you use a statement, she just has one question on her mind: “Can I go to the art gallery or bookshop with him?”
Know the difference between love and infatuation.
In the late 90s, Savage Garden released a popular song called A Thousand Words in which Darren illustrates attraction and chemistry in various ways. Yes, attraction and chemistry could be slightly confusing as they include infatuation, tension, and love. But what’s the main difference between love and infatuation?
Infatuation is fueled by oxytocin, while love is fueled by a genuine connection. To be more exact, infatuation is the official term for love at first sight. As soon as you meet an attractive lady, your body and brain instantly release a lot of oxytocin. This instantly builds attraction. Therefore, everything about her is so attractive. However, after a while, the amount of oxytocin reduces, so you may start to wonder why you were obsessed earlier in the relationship.
By contrast, love is based on a genuine connection that is built on a shared blueprint and shared experiences. A shared vision is key, as love is not about two individuals looking into each other’s eyes. It’s all about two individuals looking in the same direction in life.
Infatuation rarely lasts for a long time, whereas love can last forever. To be more specific, infatuation isn’t even based on a real and solid foundation. It is clear that when the spark is very intense, it makes you feel wonderful. Nevertheless, after the spark is gone, love at first sight doesn’t work anymore.
Short-term and long-term in international dating
In contrast, love is so different because it’s very sustainable—the foundation is real and solid. A real relationship with a Ukrainian lady is full of love. It is not really about having sparky and blissful moments all day, every day. It’s all about trusting each other, supporting each other and having faith in each other. Yes, it’s about loving each other unconditionally. That’s why love can last forever.
Infatuation can feel a bit surreal, while love feels realistic and practical. If a romantic relationship looks like a movie, maybe it’s just infatuation, and it doesn’t look realistic. You met a lady in a coffeehouse where you both were reaching for the same cup of hot chocolate and then accidentally touched each other’s fingers. Then you began a conversation with her, and you hit it off miraculously without any valid reasons. Now you may have to assess if this is 100% infatuation or not.
In international dating, it’s the chemistry that counts
Though love includes chemistry as well, it’s certainly beyond chemistry as it also has other key aspects such as mutual interests, genuine connection, radical affection, and so on.
On an international dating site, you should look for love rather than infatuation because Ukrainian ladies are looking for serious relationships.
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