Meeting your Ukrainian lady: Are you nervous on the 1st date?

Usually, there are two reasons why a guy is nervous on the 1^st date: A) He is very attracted to the lady. B) He doesn’t have great dating skills because those who have excellent dating skills wouldn’t feel nervous even if they are meeting Reese Witherspoon. ?

• What is micro-attraction?

The best way to overcome your nerves on the first date is to introduce micro-attraction to the dynamics because this is the fastest way to make you calm down. Micro-attraction means small, subtle and beautiful moments which make a person really attractive, e.g., A) When you send her a present according to something she is interested in simply because you carefully listen to what she likes. B) When she tells you good news and you genuinely want to celebrate with her. Have you had micro-attraction moments in your life so far? Of course, these don’t have to happen on the 1^st date, but you can start to bring micro-attraction to the communication early. ?

Note that affection doesn’t necessarily equal a long-term relationship. A person saying “I want a long-term relationship” does. Luckily, everyone on SimplyDating.com is looking for a long-term relationship, so you are in the right place!

By the way, do you like banter? Banter is usually necessary on the first date as it makes a date interesting and fun. However, too much banter may reduce attraction, for attraction actually needs a mixture of various emotions: A) Playful and fun conversations; B) meaningful and deep conversations; C) silence – this is when tremendous attraction is created, since when you and your Ukrainian lady are both silent, you can look at her eyes, eyebrows and nose slowly. I’m sure the Chemistry will have a capital C. Therefore, you don’t need to have a banter-filled date!

• What does a sustainable long-term relationship need?

First of all, a sustainable relationship needs emotional connection. Are you truly connected authentically? Is the connection actually genuine?

Second, you need kindness. Before Meghan Markle met Prince Harry, she asked their mutual friend, “Is this guy kind?” Even though their relationship is slightly controversial due to the high-profile publicity, I think Meghan is a smart woman asking the right question, so we shouldn’t judge them.

Third, teamwork is essential in a serious relationship. A good relationship is a good team. Without teamwork, a relationship will not last for a long time.

In a sustainable romantic relationship, you can’t expect your lady to fulfil every need in your life. Remember: You should be self-fulfilled from your own pursuits so you wouldn’t look to another person to make you happy. A high-quality relationship is supposed to be there to enhance your life instead of fixing it.

Also, in international dating, don’t confuse expectations with standards. Standards are all about someone’s behavior, whereas unhealthy expectations are all about unimportant and small things like a woman’s job title, height, her sharing your exact tastes and opinions, and so on.

• How to meet more potential candidates and build a social life that gives you a wonderful dating life:

In the first place, please list things that you would enjoy doing (and avoid things that you don’t like). Pick 3 things and invite your friends along to them.

Secondly, please keep it small. Always go for intensity instead of time spent. Even once a fortnight is pretty good if you are very sociable and can meet new people when you do that.

Lastly, always get into “explore mode” by doing new activities or trying new things that you like learning. Having a childlike curiosity is beneficial. You can say this to yourself, “I’m either about to meet some great individuals, or learn new skills, or both.”

When you go out, one of the most attractive traits is being totally unfazed by a setback or rejection because you don’t let it affect your self-esteem. Remember: the less you make it a big deal, the less other people will care. What’s more, you don’t have to pretend awkwardness doesn’t even exist, as you can joke about the awkwardness, “That didn’t go well. Now I’m going to awkwardly go back to my friends.” The less you hide, the better you can handle the situation.

Remember to work hard on yourself to be the best version of yourself by cultivating kindness, fun, independence as well as your own passions.