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5 Surefire Ways to Boost Your Confidence When Dating

July 5, 2019 by
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If you had the confidence you needed, you could achieve what you wanted in all areas of your life. When it comes to your job, you get confidence by learning how to perform the required tasks and then proving you can do a great job. You get confidence at school by doing well on homework and exams. Dating is harder because it can be difficult to see what a successful date looks like. One of the best ways to be successful in the dating world is to be confident. Here are some tips you can use to get that confidence boost you need.

Deal with your fear first.

Do you find your heart beating faster and your palms sweating when you think about going on a date? You need to face your fears head on so you can put them behind you and relax. When you are getting ready, don’t sabotage yourself. Give yourself plenty of time to get ready, and even take off work early if you need more time. Make sure you have time after you’re ready to relax a little before you leave.

Choose your clothes well ahead of time.

so you can clean or iron them if you need to. Get plenty of rest the night before and eat healthy food throughout the day. Use meditation, yoga or breathing exercises so you will be in a good place mentally before you set out. When you take care of all the details ahead of time, you will be more relaxed and less afraid.

Looking good will help you feel confident.

Some people have joked that it is better to look good than to feel good, but there is some truth to the idea that looking good makes you feel good. Get a friend to help you choose clothes that suit your coloring and style, and get your friend to help you get ready if possible. You want to look good, but you also want to show off your personality and best qualities. Do you have nice hair? Strong arms? Find something you like about yourself to show off. Wear something nice but be comfortable so you don’t feel self-conscious. Another secret to being confident on a date is smelling good. Use a nice soap and shampoo, and just enough of a fragrance so you won’t be overwhelming.

Be authentic.

You don’t want to act or look different on your date in order to be more attractive. You are a valuable person in your own right and you will get the respect you deserve if you are honest about who you are. If you present a fake personality, you will only attract someone who likes that fake self and not the person who is right for you. The fact is that there are few things in the world as attractive as honesty.

Be confident in yourself.

And try to take that confidence with you in everything you do. A lot of your fear is because you worry about being rejected, which is a normal human emotion. Your date is feeling the exact same thing, and you will feel more confident recognizing that and helping your date overcome that fear. While you are worrying about rejection, you are forgetting the important fact that you have the same power in the relationship. You will only move on with this person and keep dating if both of you decide that this is the right choice. You want to consider that if you decide not to continue the relationship, you should be kind about it.

Focus on your date instead of your fear.

You may or may not want to continue the relationship, but you have a limited amount of time on a date to get to know someone. Use your time wisely, by learning as much as possible. Listen, ask questions, and find areas you have in common. You might even learn some interesting things about yourself. Even if you don’t end up dating on a long term basis, you may find a new friend. There is no reason to look at dating as an all or nothing proposition. Enjoy yourself, relax, and look at your date as an opportunity to grow.

If you need more tips on dating and relationships or you are yet to find the “one”, please feel free to visit Simply Dating.

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8 Secrets To Make A Girl Fall In Love With You

June 26, 2019 by
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If you’re assuming “love at first sight” is a given for everyone but you—you’re mistaken. Love at first sight is a rarity. It’s neither automatic nor promised. For love to blossom, it takes work and sacrifice. A lot of work and sacrifice. Your best friends know this. Your parents know it. And their parents knew it, as well. But attraction? That’s a different story. If attraction is the seed and love is the flower, then your attention and efforts are the careful nurturing from which it grows. An overused analogy? Perhaps. But a necessary one. Wishful thinking won’t make love blossom. And neither will playing hard to get. And technically, there’s no real way to “make” a girl fall in love with you. There’s no magic wand you can wave, nor can love be forced. But there are ways to make her happy. And happiness is the soil from which love grows…

You Can’t Hurry Love

And if you’re pressuring yourself to make love happen—don’t. At best, you’ll seem awkward. At worst, you’ll seem desperate. And no woman appreciates either. You have to be confident; not only in yourself, but in the fact that love will happen only if it’s meant to happen. More importantly, if she allows it to happen. If she doesn’t know what she’s missing, that’s her fault not yours. You can only hope to be yourself. Anything less is beneath you.

Your Mother Was Right—It’s What’s Inside That Counts

More specifically, the gift of gab. You can work out eight days a week. You can be Brad Pitt’s dead ringer. But it’s all for nothing if you’re incapable of starting (and more importantly, maintaining) a conversation. Believe it or not, women can be just as shy as you are. But ice breakers don’t have to come off like a cheesy pick up line. They do, however, have to come naturally. Think of a topic that stirs your interest. A relatively neutral one; one which you both can relate to. This isn’t just establishing common ground. This indicates you’re genuinely interested in her thoughts, not your own assumptions.

Master The Lost Art Of Body Language

Maybe you do have a way with words. Maybe you can make a crowd swoon by a simple retort alone. Maybe you’re even too eloquent or too clever for your own good sometimes. But you can be a veritable Shakespeare and still manage to send out the wrong signals. Body language is an unconscious quality, one which we all use but never quite seem able to articulate. And it’s also something you need to be conscious of at all times. It’s not just words that can sway her. Your gestures, your posture, your failure to make eye contact… all of these send subtle cues that can either persuade or dissuade. Confidence means both direct eye contact as well as openness. If you have you’re hunched over or have your hands folded across your chest, there’s only one message you’re sending: “Don’t bother with me.”

Laugh And She’ll Laugh With You

A sense of humor is fundamental in most any given situation (funerals aside). If you take yourself too seriously, you either appear dull or simply too intense. Don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself, and learn to laugh at her jokes—no matter how boring. She’s attempting to convey something to you through a universal language. Laughter. If you can’t speak it, chances are she won’t be able to speak yours.

But Don’t Be Afraid To Show Sincerity

That means your own vulnerability, as well. There’s a difference between making her laugh and being a court jester every waking moment. She might find it to be amusing for a week or two, but pretty soon she’ll learn to think of you as nothing more than a one-dimensional cartoon. It’s an inherent human trait to want to share our concerns, our fears, our tragedies and what’s truly important to us deep down. Learning the difference between diffusing a grave situation with humor and showing empathy and concern in times of need is an art form. When in doubt, always opt for the latter.

Compliment, Don’t Creep

Think women are inherently vain and persuaded by flattery? Well… we all are, regardless of gender. But showering her with a torrent of incessant praises won’t make her fall for you. It doesn’t show your romantic side. It’s just plain obsessive. Women respond to subtlety, not desperate fear—no matter how much of a puppy dog you are deep down inside. She’ll respond much more positively to a compliment on her clothes or perfume than she will by getting her face tattooed two weeks into the relationship. And it will be a lot less painful.

Playing Hard To Get Means She Won’t Want To Get You

That rule about waiting three days to return her call? That’s as much of a fairy tale as love at first sight. You’re not playing it cool and aloof. You’re simply being a jerk. And toying with her emotions if you’re already several weeks into the relationship. No woman wants to feel like she’s not a priority. Nor does anyone. If you can afford to respond to coworkers or your mechanic in a timely fashion, you owe as much (in fact, more) to the woman of your dreams. And if you can’t manage that and insist on using distance as a strategy, don’t be surprised if she finds someone willing to do so in the meantime.

Attract Her, Don’t Chase After Her

That doesn’t mean putting on airs. That doesn’t mean trying to impress her with empty bragging and shiny new toys. But that also doesn’t mean neglecting hygiene, acting crudely or disrespecting her either. It means being yourself—the best aspects of yourself. Make a list of those qualities about yourself you truly appreciate, and work to emphasize them. It could be your sense of humor. It could be your compassion. It could be your open mind. Whatever they are, chances are if you find them redeeming then she will, too. And if she doesn’t?

Well, as we said early on… that’s her loss.

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5 Important Things To Know About Dating in Your 30s

June 21, 2019 by
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Dating in your 30s is more challenging compared to when you were in your 20s. Younger people tend to have more time and energy to date and more carefree. And since you are young, you will always have this thinking that eventually you will meet someone later in life – no pressure.
What do you need to know about dating in your 30s?

When you reach that 30th marks of your age, there comes more challenges and pressure with each day that passes by. The playing field becomes narrower, your biological clock is ticking and lots of baggage to carry. There is a sense of urgency especially when you see all your friends setting down. And you get asked by family members when you will finally get to meet “the one”.

While seeing your friends starting a family, you can’t help but feel left behind. But do not fret. 30 is actually the most exciting part of your life to be “single and ready to mingle”.
So, how to start dating in your 30s and make the most out of it?
Here are the 5 things you should know about:

Relax and do not rush into things

Yes, the 30s is the age when you start thinking about marriage and kids. However, do not put too much pressure into that thought especially on your early dates. Scaring the person off is not a good way to start a happy relationship. Do not come across as someone too intense and passionate about settling down. Relax and have fun along the way. The most important thing in dating is finding that ideal person who perfectly fits into your life – one day at a time.

Perfect timing

A perfect time to date is actually in your 30s. You are more mature, financially stable and more responsible at this age. You make choices that will definitely make a positive impact on your life. At this point in your life, you have already gathered enough valuable knowledge and life experiences that give you a better concept of what a real relationship really means. Additionally, your failed relationships in the past would have given you a better idea on how to explore the world of online dating and find that person who is worthy of your time.

Be comfortable in your own opinion and ideas

As we grow older, we learn more about ourselves. We know what we want and we stand for what we believe in. This makes you less concerned about how other people judge others. You become more open-minded and will have no qualms about throwing the rules out of the window. Dating people who are not in your league and isn’t your normal type will be out of the question – and that is perfectly fine for you. So get out there, explore and experience different things.

Be yourself

Being single for a long time is not something to be bothered upon. It is not the end of the world. This is the time when you can concentrate on focusing on things that matter to you – being yourself. If the right person has not arrived yet, you should not be depressed. Be happy being single – be happy in yourself alone. If and when the right person comes, you will be more than ready for whatever comes your way.

Time is precious

When you are in your 30s, you have more responsibilities and your life will be busier. You won’t have time to play games – you become more serious. When you start dating in your 30s and you tend to choose people who are worth your precious time only. So if you date someone and you probably do not want to see them again, be honest and tell them upfront. Forget about the normal rules of waiting – three days for a text message, five for a call or seven for another meet-up. If you like someone and want to spend more time with them, arrange for another meeting. Your 30s is the time to be more straightforward and honest.

In conclusion, in every dating scene, it is always important to know what you want. Just because you are already in your 30s and time is ticking fast you will simply settle. Never settle for anything less, but stop looking for perfection and be ready to compromise. If you change your mindset and be open to new experiences and new people, you will be in a better place to meet that “one’ person to complete you. The 30s is a transition period – you are not “old” yet but definitely not your “younger” self anymore. Dating in your 30s is fun and interesting, only if you make it be like that.

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Relationship Tips That Couples Often Forget

June 15, 2019 by
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Often times, it can seem like the task of maintaining a relationship is itself a full time job. A job that doesn’t pay financially, but one which has its own rewards. The value of companionship. Understanding. Compassion. Security. And of course, the thrill of a blossoming romance. But that’s on a good day. Like all jobs, relationships have their ups and downs. And while it might not be a day in the trenches, it’s not always a walk in the park either. You have lives. Priorities. Careers. Goals. While a relationship may indeed be a top priority, we often get so caught up in the momentum of our lives that we forget maintaining a relationship requires both effort and sensitivity. What relationship tips do you need to remember?

If your relationship has gone dull, you don’t necessarily need to spice things up. You can rediscover just why that spark existed in the first place. And that can include both its boundaries as well as its novelty. If you’ve forgotten why you fell for one another to begin with, here’s a few tips to help you capture that elusive and magical spark.

Never Take Your Relationship For Granted

Events in our lives can change at the drop of a hat. And it really is true that you don’t always know what you have until it’s gone. There are little things you can do for one another to show your appreciation. It can be a simple heartfelt compliment, or buying a cake with the words “I love you” on it. Acknowledgement is in short surplus these days. Exercise it frequently.

The Past Is The Past

And it’s wise to leave it buried. Why dredge up bitter memories when your time could be more productively spent cherishing each other’s company and planning for the future? Let sleeping dogs lie. Your ex has likely moved on by now. Why haven’t you?

The Couple That Plays Together Stays Together

Finding shared interests is one of the most important things a couple can do together. It can be as simple as taking a day trip to a country bed & breakfast or as hair-raising as skydiving lessons (although you might want to consider something a little less high impact). You may not always have the same tastes—after all, finding your opposite is half the fun—but surely there’s one or two activities you can do together that can be both exciting and challenging. Make a list and check them off one by one.

Respect Your Differences As Much As Your Similarities

It’s no secret that opposites attract. It’s one of the peculiarities of relationship logic. The more seemingly different you are, the deeper the attraction. Be watchful of each other’s uniqueness. Just like no two snowflakes are alike, no two relationships are alike as well. Because it’s not so much a question of opposites as it is of complementary qualities.

Communication Is The Lifeline Of Your Relationship

Have you spoken with your partner to find out what’s really on their mind? What’s really going on in your lives? The key to honest communication isn’t so much a question of saying the right thing as much as asking the right questions—even if they hurt (especially if they hurt). Deception never pays, and only an honest expression can receive an honest assessment.

Take Better Care Of Yourself

As much for your appearance as for your health. When we’re in the first throes of a relationship, we tend to obsess over physical fitness only to forget about it six months down the road. Slovenliness is often the result of an increased level of comfort. But your partner is likely expecting some modicum of effort towards taking care of your hygiene. No one likes a slob, and comfort’s no excuse for a lack of cleanliness and physical fitness.

Honesty Is The Best Policy

There’s a thin line between honesty and mean spiritedness. Often times, we’re so afraid of upsetting a partner that we learn to make up little lies and sugar coat any criticism. But if your relationship is worth anything, it needs to be based on the truth. And that brutal frankness needs to be extended to yourself, as well. If your values are truly aligned, it can withstand the assault.

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8 Signs of True Love from your Man

June 10, 2019 by
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It’s borderline cliche but no words are ever going to be enough to define love. You just know it. You just feel it. And you know you’re in love because you’re suddenly capable of doing the impossible, see things in a different light, and life takes on an entirely different direction. But how do you know for sure that the other person feels the same? How do you know if your man is a keeper? Keep reading and learn about the evident signs of true love.

He makes you a priority

A man loves you when he prioritizes you above anything and everything. It means that he’s willing to cancel plans made with friends or opt to spend the weekend just for snuggling instead of hanging out at the bar because that’s the only chance he’s got to spend quality time with you.

His actions speak louder than his words

Promises of love mean nothing when they don’t translate into actions. A lot of men out there scream of their undying love and devotion but their deeds show otherwise. Without actions, their confession of love doesn’t mean anything. If your man is someone who’d go the extra mile to make sure you never doubt his love and make you feel cared for, he’s definitely a catch!

He means it when he says “I love you”

True love doesn’t mean your man needs to tell you “I love you” a thousand times a day. You may only hear these words once or twice a day but you know it’s sincere because he means it. As to how or why, no one can really explain but you just know it’s coming from his heart.

He respects you

Love isn’t love without respect. When a man truly loves you, he respects you, your opinions, decisions and your differences. You may disagree on many things, he may not share the same values and principles that you do but he won’t take it against you. He won’t push you to compromise and compel you to believe what he believes in.

He is patient

Things will get rough at times and there will be times when you would push each other’s buttons and get on each other’s nerves. But because a man loves you, he will do his best to remain patient. He will always try to understand even if he gets annoyed or irritated. At the end of the day, his love will always overpower any situation, mood or emotions.

He considers your feelings

Because true love is selfless, someone who loves you will always be sensitive about your feelings. He will be mindful of his actions so that he doesn’t do or say anything that will hurt or upset you. He will always consider how you’ll feel especially when making major life decisions.

He makes you part of every aspect of his life

A man who has sincere intentions and is serious about you will include you in every part of his life. He will introduce you to his family and friends because that’s how important you are. He wants them to love you just as much as he does. He wants you to be around in every important event and milestone in his life.

He considers your happiness his happiness

Another display of true love is a man who puts your happiness above everything. He tries to make you happy in every way he can because your happiness is his own. He doesn’t want to see you down and lonely because when you are, he feels your pain, too. However, he also tries to go the extra mile to cheer you up and make you feel better.

A lot of women find themselves wondering whether or not the man they’re dating is a keeper. But when you meet the right guy, you won’t even have to wonder about how he feels. These signs of true love will be present and he will make it known how much he cares and loves you.

If you’re looking forward to finally meeting your perfect match and a life partner, it’s time to start your online dating journey. Please feel free to visit Simply Dating.

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5 Ways To Instantly Boost Your Dating Confidence

May 20, 2019 by
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Dating confidence. Why do some people have it and others don’t? More specifically, why don’t you?

As the old saying goes, all’s fair in love and war. When it comes to the world of dating, it can often seem like some of your weapons are simply out of date. It’s no longer enough to rely on good looks, intelligence, a sense of humor or even your own winning personality. There’s a certain subtlety, an unspoken charm, a charisma that you need to possess in order to make your mark in the high risk game of romance.

Or is there?

If you’re expecting a secret formula when it comes to finding the right match, you’re going to find yourself sorely mistaken. It’s as much a game of chance as anything else in life. But there is a secret weapon when it comes to dating. It’s called confidence; and it’s just as necessary in the workplace as it is in the trials of romance. In fact, it affects every aspect of your life. Every waking moment. What is the big secret about confidence?

It’s not inherent. It’s learned.

Dating confidence isn’t something anyone is born with. We all start off as blank slates. Blank and…awkward. Some of us may remain that way. A lack of self esteem can prove to be a legitimate barrier—not just to dating, but to your success in just about anything. That’s the bad news. Is there good news? Yes, there’s a few simple tips to boost not only your dating confidence, but your self esteem as well.

Dating Confidence Tip # 1: The Eyes Always Have It

You wouldn’t believe how next to impossible it is for many people to make eye contact. For some it’s the hardest thing in the world. There’s something about eye contact which seems to reveal absolutely everything about a person. No one wants to reveal absolutely everything about themselves—especially when dating. At least, at first.

The problem is that eye contact expresses confidence, security, and inner calmness. Traits just about everyone looks for in a partner. If you’re lacking in those traits, here’s an interesting trick. Try looking in the mirror. Force yourself to think of something positive. Did you see your eyes light up? Now think of something that makes you sad. It’s telling, isn’t it? Practice this a few times until it no longer seems forced, but natural. Once you get the hang of it, try making eye contact on your next date. The reaction may surprise you!

Dating Confidence Tip # 2 : Empathy Is Its Own Reward

Think of precisely why you’re dating. Companionship? A sense of security? Or are you looking to make a deep and genuine connection with someone?

Chances are, it’s the latter. But a connection doesn’t happen without a sense of empathy at some level. You can’t develop empathy if you’re not listening to what someone is trying to say. The key to empathy isn’t sympathy or pity. At its core, it means to relate to someone (Remember? You’re looking for a relationship.) Empathy doesn’t necessarily have to be a deep and profoundly life altering bond at first. It can be as simple as a favorite restaurant or movie. Eventually over time you’ll see that spark blossom into something else entirely.

Dating Confidence Tip # 3 : Respect Yourself

This isn’t the easiest thing for many people to do, especially if you’ve had to face toxic environments (in particular, relationships) in the past. It’s very easy to fall into a trap of repeating vicious cycles, and the effect they have on your self esteem is unquestionably devastating.

You can fight this cycle of negativity with an equal cycle of productivity. Take the time to make a list of your immediate goals in order of priority. Review it and see which ones are easily obtainable. This could be as simple as starting an exercise regimen or as challenging as going back to school for a degree. Recognising that the only thing holding you back from attaining your goals is your own negative self image is the most important (and frequently, the only) step you can take towards breaking negative cycles.

Dating Confidence Tip # 4 : Say It With Kindness

One of the most revealing traits of someone with little confidence in themselves is fashionable cynicism. If you make the presumption that the world or life is inherently negative, the result is inherently negative for you.

Cynicism is like a magnet. It only attracts more cynicism,and perpetuates more cynicism. Unfortunately, no one likes a cynic. At least not for long. No one will ever consider it a worthwhile trait in a long term romantic partner. Try for a space of two weeks to say nothing but kind words to the people around you—even if it’s entirely forced. You might find their perceptions of you have changed dramatically. And yours of them. Remember, confidence isn’t a quality, It’s an attitude. Lose your bad one.

Dating Confidence Tip # 5 : There’s Nothing Like The Real Thing

You’ve probably noticed by now that the most insecure people you know are frequently the most arrogant. They brag about themselves, their accomplishments, and generally puff themselves out to overcompensate for their own lack of self esteem. This isn’t confidence, it’s a defense mechanism.

If you can see through it, so can others. No one would ever appreciate dating a cartoon outside of… other cartoons. And that’s probably not something you need in your life. People appreciate a lack of pretense because just like you, they don’t have time to play games. Be honest with others, even if it means being vulnerable. But most of all, be honest with yourself. Re-examine your needs, your dreams and what you’re looking for in a relationship. You’ll likely find that all three are within your grasp.

Now that you know where to look.

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10 Relationship Tips From Online Dating Experts

May 10, 2019 by
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The world of dating can often seem like a peculiar game of strategy. One in which the rules are often unspoken, unwritten and unclarified. One in which there should be neither winners or losers, but sometimes , there are. Relationships can take so much energy to maintain and optimize that it’s easy to forget you’re both supposed to be on an even playing field. In fact, it’s easy to forget that you shouldn’t be rivals, but instead teammates. Companions fighting what can frequently seem like an uphill battle.

And unfortunately, there’s no one specific way to master that uphill battle. That’s primarily because relationships aren’t about mastery at all. And they’re certainly not about battles. They’re about sharing experiences with one another. Discovery. Enrichment. Fulfillment. Savoring all the joys, triumphs and challenges this world has to offer.

This can mean both sacrifice as much as understanding. Just what do you need to do to better understand your partner—and subsequently maintain your relationship?

We decided to turn to the experts for advice on how to manage love and relationships, particularly when everything else in life might seem uncertain. Here’s what they had to say about keeping your relationship vital, fresh and rewarding,.

Relationship Tip # 1: Attract, Don’t Distract

“One of the biggest challenges in a connected world is that couples don’t often know when to disconnect,” says Amy Noonan, an advice columnist from Philadelphia. “But spending time together means the focus should be solely on the both of you—not the workplace or online drama.” Her advice? “Learn to unplug. Put the phone on silent. Whatever else you have going on in your life, you can confront in the morning once you’re refreshed.”

Relationship Tip # 2: Communicate With Words, Not Text

“Emails and text messages are inherently distant,” explains Steven Kramer, a couples therapist currently based in London. “The spoken word is much more intimate. More nuanced. The right tone of voice can change everything, and you just can’t get that in an email.” His next suggestion? “Try leaving an old-fashioned handwritten note. Even if it’s just to wish them a good day at work. It shows effort, and it’s much more personal than words on a screen.”

Relationship Tip # 3: Say What You Mean (But Don’t Say It Mean)

“It’s a cliche, but one of the biggest problems with communication is when couples don’t speak what’s on their mind,” continues Kramer. “They’re afraid of hurting one another’s feelings. But if they want an honest balance, they need to get over that fear. They can’t sugar-coat or hide their true feelings. But at the same time, they shouldn’t let their own pride and prejudices cloud an argument. Maintaining honesty and respect can seem like a fine line, but it only comes about through practice. A lot of practice.”

Relationship Tip # 4 : Guess Who’s Coming To Dinner?

“They say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. But it’s the same for women,” laughs Noonan. “Sharing dinner together is one of the most common ways to show intimacy. Particularly when it’s home cooked. You don’t have to be Julia Child to whip up a romantic dinner.” She has a particular word of advice for guys. “Even if you’re an absolute fire hazard when cooking, she’ll at least appreciate the effort you put in. But don’t be discouraged if she suggests take out next time!”

Relationship Tip # 5 : Time Is Of The Essence

“There’s no such thing as being fashionably late,” explains Jessica Hernandez, a dating specialist from Phoenix. “It just makes you look rude and inconsiderate—not cool and aloof. If you’ve made plans, you owe it to your partner to be on time.” She has another recommendation about timing. “And don’t air your battles in a public place. That’s just obnoxious. If you have to, save it for a time when you’re both alone and have had a chance to cool off and speak calmly.”

Relationship Tip # 6 : The Couple That Plays Together, Stays Together

“Couples frequently find themselves having different interests and priorities,” Kramer says. “But when you express an interest in each others’ activities—even if they’re not your own—what you’re actually expressing is an acceptance and acknowledgement of your differences.” His recommendation? “A morning run, for instance. Or a cooking class. Or a ball game. Try opening up yourself to at least one of your partner’s activities that you can share in, even if you typically wouldn’t be caught dead trying it. An open mind is crucial to open communication.”

Relationship Tip # 7 : Know When To Agree In Order To Disagree

“Mutual respect means respecting differences. Especially when some of those differences seem hostile,” says Noonan. But learn to tell when those differences seem irreconcilable, she elaborates. “But if you have values that are radically opposite, you may want to re-examine whether or not you’re the right match. It’s one thing to disagree about food preferences. That’s healthy. But it’s not so healthy when your lifestyles and morals are from two different planets.”

Relationship Tip # 8 : Spill Your Heart Out On Paper

“One thing I’ve found helpful is keeping a journal I can share with my fiancé,” explains Hernandez. “It’s something that we can both share in. Basically, we jot down everything… likes, dislikes, arguments, hopes, fears, fantasies—especially fantasies. We review it maybe once or twice a month and have an honest discussion about it. It’s sort of an objective third ear. But much cheaper than a therapist!”

Relationship Tip # 9 : Discover Uncharted Territory Together

“One of the great things about being in a relationship is discovering one another,” muses Kramer. “But it’s important to remember that there’s a much bigger world to discover. If you’re looking to rekindle that fire when you were first learning about one another, take a trip to somewhere you’ve never been. It doesn’t have to be a globetrotting adventure. Visit a nearby town and explore the sites. Eat at an unfamiliar restaurant. Take up an activity neither of you would have considered otherwise. Broaden your horizons, and you’ll broaden your relationship as well.”

Relationship # 10 : Lose That Extra Baggage And Travel Light

“Just about everyone can tell a horror story about their past relationships,” Noonan explains. “But if you can’t let it go, what that’s telling your partner is you’re not ready for a relationship yet. And honestly, That message is right. You’re not ready for a new relationship. Your partner isn’t your ex, and if you can’t see that you might be missing out on something wonderful. Don’t walk into dating thinking every relationship is going to fall into the same pattern. No two are ever going to be alike.” And if you do fall into that cycle? “Learn to break it. Get out of that mindset. In other words… grow up.”

Wise words from three experts who have been right where you are.

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5 Online Dating Mistakes You Should Avoid

April 22, 2019 by
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Once upon a time, online dating was considered a fairly unconventional alternative to traditional dating. Not only unconventional, but at times unsavory. It was the sort of platform only to be considered as a last resort; one which was meant in no way, shape or form to be taken seriously. And woe be unto you if you dare introduce a partner to your family and letting them know you met online…

But times have changed. Not only has online dating become standard, it’s become the predominant method for finding romance for millions of people. So predominant that revenues for the online dating industry are expected to top $12 Billion by 2020 alone, according to some analysts.

Chances are you know at least one couple who have successfully met online. And there’s a very strong chance you’re wondering why that success seems to have eluded you so far. Unfortunately, when it comes to dating there is no such thing as absolutes. And that’s especially true with online dating. It’s not you. And it’s not them. Whether it’s fate, luck or circumstance—there’s simply no magic formula that can introduce you to the person of your dreams, whether it’s online or at your favorite watering hole.

But there are some fairly common online dating mistakes many people make unintentionally. Avoiding them won’t necessarily bring you true love. That’s entirely dependent on chemistry. But avoiding them can save you both heartbreak in the long run—as well as some unexpected trouble.

If you’ve ever wondered where you’ve made your mistakes when dating online, here are some tips for what to avoid.

Online Dating Mistake Number One: Putting Your Best Face Forward (Not Your True Face)

We all have that one picture in which we look undeniably attractive. Sometimes it’s a candid shot. Other times, it’s heavily retouched (yes, Photoshop is a single person’s best friend). Regardless, it’s our cherished picture. The one we use to remind ourselves we’re desirable and worthy of true love. And naturally, it’s the one we use for an online dating profile.

But it’s hardly the best picture you have. “You look nothing like your profile” isn’t just the butt of lame jokes; for many of us, it’s a reality. We really do look nothing like our profiles. And anyone who is going to fall for you sight unseen based on the strength of your profile picture is likely bound to be fairly shallow. Instead, consider posting a more recent photo of yourself. Let them fall for the real you—not the Photoshopped you.

Online Dating Mistake Number Two: Reading Is Fundamental—Especially When It Comes To Profiles

Many people will spend a great deal of time crafting the perfect profile. Intelligent profiles. Witty profiles. Provocative profiles. And nine times out of ten, their intentions are well-meaning. Like you, they want to detail as much of their background and lives as possible so you know what to expect.

But learning to read between the lines is fundamental. There are some online dating profiles you simply might want to avoid. Are they revealing too much of their lives? Do they boast a little too frequently? Do questions of sex pop up unsolicited? Do they focus too much on past relationships? Is there a hint of desperation in their self description? If so, these are red flags to consider before treading carefully. Very carefully.

Online Dating Mistake Number Three: Asking Too Much Personal Information

When it comes to dating, it’s natural to be curious about someone’s background in interests when gauging their compatibility. But “too much information” isn’t just an over-extended euphemism. It’s very much a real thing. Your initial exchanges with someone should be a relatively casual affair—no different than if you were talking to a stranger at a coffee shop. But asking for (or being asked to reveal) deeply intimate feelings and thoughts isn’t merely inappropriate. It’s downright creepy.

Keep in mind that identity thieves don’t just send out anonymous emails claiming to be your long lost relative who has a sizable inheritance if you simply forward your banking information. Many of them prey on online dating profiles, and have gotten highly sophisticated with their methods with just a few scraps of personal information. If you give anyone your full legal name, phone number or personal email after one or two brief exchanges, you may be asking for trouble.

Online Dating Mistake Number Four: You’re Not A Robot. Don’t Act Like One

Many people like to think they’ve created the perfectly worded response or initial message. One that’s as wittily self effacing as it might be sassy. One that’s thought provoking but not too thought provoking. One that’s light hearted but intelligent. So they copy and paste it. Over and over again. And wonder why they never get a response.

People don’t like to be thought of as just one in another row of anonymous applicants. If they’ve taken the time to craft you a well thought out message or create an articulate profile, they deserve the same respect. Take the time to mention common interests you might have. Ask questions. Personalize your message. Get to get to know them. After all, that is why you’re using an online dating site.

Online Dating Mistake Number Five: They Really ARE Just Not That Into You

Did you fail to get a response after repeated messages? Did they tell you that “you seem like a nice person, but…?” No, they’re not playing hard to get. They simply aren’t seeing any connection.

That may be a hard truth to swallow. And it very well could be their loss. But repeatedly contacting them after they’ve established their lack of interest isn’t just a case of not getting the hint. It isn’t just annoying. It’s harassment. Chalk up your loss and move on.

As the old saying goes… there’s plenty of fish in the sea.

Online dating is indeed very useful if you want to meet a potential match. If you’re ready to give it a try, be sure to choose a reliable online dating website – Simply Dating.

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Top 10 Unspoken Online Dating Rules

April 13, 2019 by
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Like everything else in this world, dating has its own set of informal laws. And these laws seem to be peculiar for many people.

Call it design. Call it circumstance. Call it whatever you’d like. For whatever reason, the internet has had a definitive impact on dating in the twentieth century—for better or for worse. While romantic interactions may have changed in the past fifty years, the need to observe etiquette remains at an all time high. And yet?

Ask any woman who’s received an unsolicited crotch pic how likely they’d be to react positively. Go on. We’ll wait.

Didn’t think so. But it’s not just wholesale cluelessness that can turn a date from delight to disaster faster than you can say “Zuckerberg.” While it might seem like common sense to state that if you wouldn’t do it in the office, don’t do it on a date—online dating doesn’t exactly result in a surplus of common sense.

Maybe you’re just getting back into the swing of dating. Maybe you’re wondering why you seem to never get a second call. Or maybe you need to learn the fundamentals of manners. Online dating rules have changed the game. Not just in twenty years, but in the past two. Here are the top 10 rules of online dating advice.

Dress To Impress, Not To Repress

No, that doesn’t mean wearing Oscar de la Renta or Hugo Boss to the movies. But that doesn’t mean stained sweatpants and tracksuits, either. There’s a happy medium (more like an extra large) between both ends.

When in doubt, business casual is your friend in almost all occasions. And unless you’re going to a Comic-con or an opera performance of “Wuthering Heights”, leave the Mad Hatter outfits and Victorian frock coats at home (don’t laugh—we’ve seen it done.) There’s a big difference between being quirky and crying for attention.

Great Sexpectations Means Walking Home Alone

Men: You’ve picked up the tab. You smiled. You complimented her. Why, you even bothered to take a shower. Guess what? She still doesn’t owe you anything.

Women: He’s eyeing you. Ogling you. A leer says more than panting breath sometimes. If you’re not feeling it, learn to say “no.” Feels good, doesn’t it? If he doesn’t get the picture, remember these four simple words: Eyes. Knees. Groin. Throat.

Cash Rules Everything Around You. Use It Wisely

That’s a pretty sizable tab they’ve run up. 20 year vintage wine on a first date? Filet mignon? And whatever a tarte flambee is? Expensive tastes. Surely they know their stuff. No doubt, they can cover their end.

What’s that? They left their card at home? They’ll pay you tomorrow—and by the way, do you mind calling them an Uber?

Planning ahead to ensure you’re not spending outside your means on a first date is the difference between people watching—and washing dishes.

Get Off The Phone

There’s no greater lack of tact than checking your phone every 30 seconds. Even if the date has entered into that curious territory known as “Awkward Pause-landia”, at least pretend to feign interest in what they might have to say. And this might be a novel suggestion, but… consider striking up a conversation.

The LOLcats can wait until you get home.

Let Sleeping Dogs Lie

Your ex isn’t around to hear you. Your past is a past for a reason—no matter how painful or time consuming it might have been. No one is interested in competing with the caricatures you might paint. And furthermore? If you’re not ready to give up the past, you might not be ready to start dating again.

Your date isn’t a competitor. They’re a real life flesh and blood person, with their own dreams, their own quirks and hopefully their own charms. They’re not your therapist.

A First Date Is Not A Contract

Online dating can lead to some tricky assumptions; particularly if you’ve been lost in deep, meaningful conversations before even meeting face to face (don’t laugh. We’ve all been there.) But don’t assume your first encounter is going to be destiny smiling down on you.

Real connections take time to develop. And online encounters are, let’s face it, only one side of the story. Don’t rush into your first date with wild-eyed dreams of true love. There’s a thin line between romantic aspirations and creepiness. Which, speaking of creepiness…

Don’t Stalk Your Date On Social Media (Or Any Place Else)

We’ve all done it. Reviewed a Facebook or LinkedIn profile to ensure there’s no red flags such as copious pictures of firearms or an occupation listed as “big pimpin’.” But there’s cautious and honest curiosity—and then there’s obsessiveness.

If they’re willing to share their profile with you, that doesn’t mean they’re head over heels in love with you. It means they have little to hide. Don’t exploit that openness.

Don’t String Someone Along

They’re nice, but… They’re sweet, but… Their heart is in the right place, but… For whatever reason, you’re just not that into them. But they, on the other hand? They’re convinced that you—yes, you—just might be the proverbial “one.” And you don’t want to let them down.

Let them down easy. Tactfully. Firmly. But there’s no use in letting them pretend there’s a spark when there’s nothing but an ice cube. Don’t lead someone along. That’s not just tacky. It’s downright cruel.

This Is A Date. Not A Competition

“Oh yeah? Well this one time…” are five words guaranteed never to lead to a second date. And in the off chance they do, rest assured that your entire time together will be spent puffing up your chest, and there’s no hope for a first kiss.

Nobody likes a braggart. About the only thing they like less is someone so insecure they feel the need to inflate their own ego non-stop. When in doubt, just remember—your rags are better than someone else’s gown.

Be Yourself

Be weird. Be controversial. Be boring. Be silly. Be passionate. But be natural. Most people can see through airs as well as they can see through… well, air.

Online dating is indeed very useful if you want to meet a potential match. If you’re ready to give it a try, be sure to choose a reliable online dating website – Simply Dating.

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10 Best Ways To Show Your Love For Someone

April 6, 2019 by
Man shows her love for her woman with flowers

Showing affection. For some of us, it’s natural. Simple. It’s neither a labor of love or a chore, but an honest and healthy display of admiration and respect.

But for others, showing your love for a partner can be tricky. After all, modern living can be both insular and frequently cold. We’re not always encouraged to open up to one another emotionally or show any form of warmth. Sometimes, quite the opposite.

But showing your affection creatively requires thinking creatively. For couples, that can present its own unique challenges. It can mean more than simply words of affection. Even something as simple as a nightly kiss or a hug can become dull and routine.

Most couples therapists and psychologists stress the importance of open communication and honesty. But if you’re finding yourself in a rut in your current relationship, that same open communication and honesty can seem forced and lifeless. It can seem like a chore. And it can seem utterly predictable.

The worst part? It doesn’t have to be.

There are ways to show your love that can be both creative and heartfelt. And ways in which you can rediscover that spark between you both. Here are ten inventive ways that can rekindle your romance.

Discover New Places And Experiences

One of the easiest ways to rediscover each other is through discovering new things together. Consider taking a day trip out to a town you’ve never been to before, or a new restaurant. From hang gliding to visiting foreign countries, from kayaking to dining, new experiences are always waiting for you to discover.

Surprise Them At Work

Often, our work days can seem as monotonous as they are busy. In what’s frequently a whirlwind of emails, voice mails and “to do” notes, it’s easy to forget about your partner’s needs. Stopping by their work for an unexpected visit or sending them a playful text is a great way to show how much they mean to you, even in spite of your busy day.

Do What They Love—Not What You Want

One of the most mysterious things about being in a relationship is the fact that the best ones don’t always have common ground. We’re frequently too selfish to examine just what it is that our partners are so interested in. By taking the time once or twice a week to do what they love not only shows affection, but a deep desire to get to know the “real” them.

Unplug To Unwind

Make each other a priority with your time together, not your cell phone or the workplace. There’s no need to follow social media when you’re alone. Make them a focus and not your gadgets.

Cook Their Favorite Meal

No, you don’t have to be Julia Child. But if you’re an adult, then you should have already learned at least the basics of cooking. And learning how to cook their favorite meal can be as simple as following recipes. Never forget that the simple act of sharing food is one of the most common ways to express your intimacy.

Support Their Goals

Never forget, you’re both friends and lovers. Which means sharing your hopes and dreams, even if they do seem far fetched at times. The world might knock them down for both of you at times. Be their support as much as you need them to be yours.

The Best Gifts Are Handmade

Yes, an expensive piece of jewelry or a bottle of wine will indicate you care. But if you truly want to impress them, nothing says you’re speaking from the heart like a handmade gift. A piece of art. A mix tape. A poem. The more energy and thought you put into it, the greater your affection will be returned.

Workout Together

It’s no secret that the couple who sweats together tends to stay together. And let’s face it, not much is more intimate than building up a sweat together. It doesn’t have to be high impact. It could be a fun run,r a dance class, or a hike. But try to schedule some form of physical activity at least once a week.

Share Your Passions

It’s a common human trait to want to share our passions and interests, and in couples, that trait tends to be magnified. However, we often refrain from doing so out of fear our partners simply won’t understand—or even worse, show absolute disinterest. If you’re completely honest with your partner, that should also include sharing your passions and loves, even if it’s not necessarily going to be their cup of tea.

Never Be Afraid To Show Your Vulnerability

Couples tend to pick up on cues unconsciously, particularly if you’re guarded or defensive. Often times, that can lead to feelings of rejection and insecurity. Don’t be afraid to admit your fears or your weaknesses. Your partner isn’t there to exploit them. Chances are they have their own. Cherish them and revel in them, and don’t be afraid to reveal your own. Your relationship will be much stronger as a result.

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