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Russian dating advice: How to build a love life on your terms

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Dating is hard. But it doesn’t have to be so hard if you know how to manage your love life effectively. When you are dating a Russian woman, chances are you will notice that she is more traditional and more feminine than western women. But that doesn’t mean your relationship is going to be 100% perfect. Truthfully, no one’s relationship is perfect because perfection is a joke. So, if you are unhappy with your Russian girlfriend’s behavior, you have to know how to manage the situation so that she will change her behavior. More importantly, this will allow you to create a love life on your terms 😉

Honesty is the best policy.

If your Russian lady’s behavior is annoying you, you must tell her what she is doing. For example, she keeps in touch with her ex and you are unhappy with that, you have to let her know how you feel because she can’t read your mind.

In psychology, there is a type of statements called “I-statements”, e.g. “When you do X, I feel Y.”

When you communicate in this way, your lady from Russia is more likely to understand you and wouldn’t feel offended. As a matter of fact, the Russian culture highly values honesty, so I think your Russian woman will find you more attractive due to your honesty.

Therefore, you may say this to her if she keeps in touch with her ex: “Frankly, when you keep in touch with your ex, I feel less valued. Hopefully that’s understandable and you can change what you’ve been doing so that we will have a better future.”

In this statement, you’ve used “I” and “we”. An “I-statement” always begins with “When you do X” because now the focus is not on her as a person; the focus is on her behavior – it’s important to separate the person from their behavior so that they wouldn’t feel offended or take things personally. Also, when you use “we”, “us” and “our”, she feels that she is a part of your blueprint. Remember: women want to be a part of something 😊

If your “I-statement” doesn’t change her behavior, you have to drop the affection.

By that I mean if your Russian lady still keeps in touch with her ex and that annoys you, it’s paramount that you don’t show her the same level of affection as before so that she can learn the lesson.

If she wanders back over to you after more communication with her ex and expects the same level of attention as before, you must deny her it. Full stop.

That being said, you don’t do that in a childish way, of course. Yet if she comes over and wants to be affectionate with you suddenly, you merely say, “Sorry, I don’t want a kiss from you because I find it such a turn-off when you behave in that way.”

Now she can’t have her cake and eat it. She will understand that you are very serious, meaning if she wants to keep you in her life, she must change her bad behavior. Only through this refusal can you prove to your Russian girlfriend that you will not put up with her bad behavior.

If she still doesn’t change her behavior, the next strategy is back-off.

Let’s say she still hasn’t changed yet, even though you’ve tried the above-mentioned strategies already. Now it’s time to take real measures to back-off & withdraw contact.

Right now, you will know whether she means business. If she is actually serious about you, she will figure out her mistake and do her best to pull you back in. Then you can remind her that if she repeats her bad behavior, you are gone. Period.

If your Russian lady is not up for changing her behavior, you can be glad that you figured it out before marrying her!

How to get your woman from Russia to respect you more:

First of all, the way you behave is constantly teaching people how to treat you. Yes, you read that right. You are teaching other people how to treat you.

If you don’t dress well or you don’t look after your personal grooming, you are basically communicating this information: I don’t respect myself enough, so you don’t have to respect me much.

I know this sounds too simplistic, but please let me explain.

In our subconscious mind, we don’t really overanalyze everything. When you meet someone for the first time, which elements contribute to the first impression?

According to Psychology Today, a person’s hairstyle is the No. 1 element that people would notice when they meet for the first time. No. 2 element is a person’s clothes; No. 3 element is this person’s face.

Therefore, if you’d like your Russian girlfriend to respect you more, you have to get the right hairstyle first. You can go to an upmarket hair salon and ask their stylist to give you some advice – they can design a hairstyle which suits your face. If you think that’s too expensive, you can get their advice and get the haircut you want in a cheaper salon!

Next, from now on, you will mostly wear suits and long jackets that are well made and of high-quality. In actuality, your clothes don’t have to be expensive, but they must be right. Stop wearing ugly clothes now. Make sure the size of every suit / long jacket suits you perfectly.

Lastly, you have to make sure you are clean every single day. Cleanliness is cheap. You can afford it – daily soap, shampoo, toothpaste, toothbrush, floss, laundry liquid, etc. Also, please fix the hair inside your nostril – if the growth is too long, cut the nostril hair in time. And don’t forget to use a mint when it’s necessary because you shouldn’t have bad breath! Again, Russian women respond to cleanliness, so it’s of vital importance to stay clean 😊

As to other aspects, you also need to watch your own behavior because the way you act directly influences how your Russian lady treats you. For example, you should totally set the right boundaries in your relationship – if you don’t want to be interrupted when you are talking, be honest with her the moment she violates your standard. If you don’t want any distractions when you are working in your home office, you can tell her what you expect as you are busy working.

Frankly, if your Russian girl can’t even read a book on the couch when you are busy at work, she is probably not the right lady for you. Ideally, your Russian bride should be someone who understands boundaries in dating / marriage and respects you at all times. In this way, your love life will be much easier and you can have a love life on your terms! Congratulations!

Having standards and setting boundaries are the most important things that every man must do when they are in love. Have you done any of these?”

  • Jacqueline

    Right. When your girlfriend or boyfriend still communicating with his/her ex it is a bad sign. It is better to immediately express your dissatisfaction with this fact. Otherwise, there will be distrust in your relationship.

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