The unusual approach to internet dating: How to build your momentum

August 5, 2021 at 10.33am by in Dating advice
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Internet dating has made modern dating easier to manage – you don’t have to go to a party and try to talk to strangers who may already have partners; you don’t have to chat up the receptionist of the company that you work for and wonder whether your boss will be annoyed or not; you don’t have to ask your friends and family to introduce suitable candidates to you when their social circles aren’t too different from yours because you share the same resources anyway. Yes, online dating gives you a highly efficient and very effective way to approach modern dating – everybody knows why everybody is on a dating website, so you don’t need to explain yourself at all. But some people still find internet dating a bit hard because… they don’t have the momentum. Now please allow me to talk about a similar situation which will fully explain how to build the momentum while doing almost anything. 😊

  • How I build my momentum while writing:

Every Monday is my writing day. As I wake up in the morning, I think I know what to do: wear my morning gown, eat a healthy breakfast, check my emails and read the local news on the smartphone. And of course, I drink a cup of matcha latte – my favorite drink in the world. 😉

Then I say to myself, “I should start writing now.” So, I start my computer. I open a browser and play the background music on YouTube (it’s always romantic jazz without lyrics).

I guess I should also prepare a hot chocolate and see if that brings some inspiration to me.

So, I get a hot chocolate. Sit at my desk. Open a Word document.

Now I feel my energy level is increasing. I feel much more energized in this moment.

And I start typing the information in the header section, e.g., “ July 2021”.

All right. I should be ready. In order to come up with a good title of the new article, I open my Libby app to find some ideas – something that inspires me.

Therefore, I looked at the eBooks and audio books that I’ve borrowed on Libby app, and I wonder if I feel inspired enough today.

10 minutes pass.

I have to make a decision. Another 10 minutes pass and now I’m typing the title of this article. Things look pretty good.

At last, I’m in a flow state.

I type 1,000 words within 25 minutes.

After editing and proofreading the first article, I start to write the second article. Yes, I can write.

  • What writing has taught me is exactly what internet dating has taught me over so many years.

The first 200 words do not really matter.

Similarly, when you join a dating site, just begin to talk to somebody you are interested in.

The 1st message doesn’t really matter that much.

Indeed, when you get started, the inertia holds you back because most people don’t like the change.

When your brain wants to remain unchanged because the brain wants to keep things as they are right now, remember: the first 20 minutes don’t really matter.

Likewise, when you go to a social event, the first conversation doesn’t really matter either.

Hence, you just need to start now and momentum will find you as you keep going. Most people don’t find the love of their life on the first day when they just join a dating website. It usually takes a while before they actually meet the right person. That’s absolutely normal.

  • Prepare your opening line.

Don’t overthink things. Just send the first message on a dating site as long as your message is interesting.

According to my experience, ideal opening lines are one or more of these:

  1. Witty
  2. Lighthearted
  3. Fun
  4. Spontaneous
  5. Reflective of who you are
  6. A bit mysterious
  7. Confident
  8. Genuine
  9. Complimentary
  10. Positive
  11. Open-ended
  12. Honest
  13. Playful
  14. Sincere

For example, you can say hi and ask her name. You can pay her a genuine and simple compliment. Use her name in the conversation. Ask phenomenal questions that spark more interest.

“Stop overthinking. Start internet dating.”

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