Dating advice

Dating advice

FROM THE FIRST MESSAGE TO THE FIRST DATE: HOW DOES THE BEST DATING SITE WORK?

November 14, 2019 by

Obviously, Internet dating is commonplace right now because everything is digital these days. But it doesn’t mean everyone knows how to use the best dating website correctly; hence, I’ve decided to provide you with a how-to guide today!

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  • The first message shouldn’t be a low-effort message.

If you send something like “Hi” to a lady online, she probably wouldn’t even respond unless you look like Brad Pitt. In other words, if you have good looks, you need less attractive behavior; if you don’t have good looks, you need more attractive behavior.

In reality, most men don’t look like Brad Pitt. So, please make sure the first message that you sent to a lady on the Internet is something more interesting than “Hi”.

A low-effort message can be a generic message that you send to 100 women as well. Without any tailored/personalized content, the message’s conversion rate will be lower. (Yes, online dating is about converting strangers into potential girlfriends).

Let’s say you are looking for a job. You would be ill-advised to send 100 generic resumes to 100 companies, for these companies clearly have different expectations, requirements, and cultures. That is to say, every resume that you send to a company should be tailored according to that company’s situation. Then you will possibly get an opportunity for a job interview. Having said that, if you have a unique and sought-after skill, you don’t need to spend too much time writing your resume – a generic resume will be fine! Therefore, a person with a sought-after skill can afford to send generic, low-effort resumes, whereas someone without a sought-after skill can’t afford to do that and must send tailored resumes.

Similarly, women are evaluating men on the best dating websites (some women are doing this without consciously being aware of their evaluation). Thus, it is your responsibility to send the right messages to women online.

Here is a list of good examples (the first message to a woman on the best dating site):

  1. “Hi, Blue_Eyed! Thank you for reading my message. I noticed your dating profile and I really like it. In fact, I have secretly liked Titanic for 22 years as well because that movie is very well done and it’s not overdone.” (Note that this message indicates you have actually read her dating profile which mentions she is a fan of the movie Titanic. Because Titanic has a very strong emotive power, your message will help you build an emotional connection with this woman instantly.)
  2. “Hey, Red_Ruby! Thanks for reading my message. I also miss Spice Girls because I grew up with their music. I guess my ears have a very good memory, so every time I listen to Spice Girls, I feel young again.” (This message immediately shows a common interest that you share with this lady, so she will want to talk to you – Spice Girls is beyond music as it’s about the time you and she grew up!)
  3. “Hello, Rhythm_of_the_Rain. Thank you for checking my message. I like reading, too. In fact, I’m a member of the XYZ book club which is going to have an event this Sunday. I think you should come!” (This message is already inviting the lady to an event, so the first date is not going to be awkward – you will meet this lady in a public place where other people will be around as well. The first date will have an external focus, so it’s going to be very natural and interesting. If it goes well, you can always have a second date! Also, because this message doesn’t ask, “Would you like to come?”, you look high-value and confident – using a statement is always better than using a question – just assume she is interested! If she doesn’t want to go to the event, you don’t have anything to lose.)
  • Don’t become pen friends with a woman!

If you keep talking to a woman on the best dating site for too long, you two are pen pals. Therefore, you would be well-advised to meet her in person as soon as possible.

Let’s say you’ve met a woman on the best international dating website and she lives in a foreign country. You’d better book a flight and meet her there within a few months. Don’t wait for one year! Don’t let another year go by without progress.

Also, when you talk to each other online for too long, you might fall in love with perception in your head. She might be very different in reality, so you should find out the truth quickly. In this way, you won’t waste your time.

  • Use the Primacy Effect to your advantage on the first date.

Remember to ask the lady out for the first date as soon as possible so that you will know whether she is the right woman for you or not.

The first date is very important because sometimes the first impression is also the last impression this is called the Primacy Effect.

Primacy Effect refers to the fact that people tend to remember what they noticed first during the interaction. That’s exactly why when the first date didn’t go well, chances are you won’t have a second date.

Now you are aware of the Primacy Effect, so you should be very well-prepared for the first date. Even if you visit your lady in a foreign country, it doesn’t mean she should take you to places that she wants to go to – you still need to be in control. That means you need to do some research in advance: Which restaurants have the most romantic ambiance in her city? Which movies can you see at the cinema when you are there? Do some homework beforehand, please.

In terms of which restaurant you should go to in her city, you can check Google reviews and Yelp reviews carefully before making a decision. As to which movie you should take her to see in the cinema, you may choose a horror movie so that she will need your physical “protection” then and there! That is the perfect way to build chemistry fast with the lady from the best dating site.

  • Use the Recency Effect when you end a date.

Recency Effect refers to the fact that people tend to remember what happens in the end during the interaction. In the dating context, basically, it means when you end date, you should end it at its peak.

Don’t make the date too long because when a date keeps going for 4 or 5 hours, it will become boring. Or you might feel that you have to get physical on the first date. This can leave the wrong impression.

Ideally, the first date should be 1-2 hours maximum. Make it short and sweet. End it during its highlight, so that the lady from the best dating site will want to see you again!

“Sufficient preparation is the prerequisite of confidence.”

 

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THE MOST COMMON QUESTIONS ABOUT THE TRIP TO UKRAINE

November 14, 2019 by

Is it safe to travel to Ukraine? What is the best time to visit Ukraine? How many days should I spend in Ukraine? These are the most common questions that you ask us regularly.

We will answer each of these questions in this article and video below.

Travel to Ukraine

 1) Let’s face the fact that safeness is a relative term.

All countries and cities have safe and dangerous parts and all you can do is just to be attentive and gather all possible information from the people who have already been to the country you would like to visit.

Most noteworthy, we know that many of you are aware of the situation in Donetsk and Luhansk. Certainly, because of this particular situation, you’re afraid to come to Ukraine for such a long-awaited meeting with your special lady.

However, on our site, we register ladies only from the safe areas of our country. We watch out for our clients’ best interests, and we do care about their safeness. Therefore, all of our male clients who came to Ukraine for a meeting with their special lady got back to their countries safe. Hence, we receive numerous positive feedbacks from our clients regarding their trip to Ukraine. Certainly, Ukraine is a wonderful country with beautiful nature, rich history and culture, delicious cuisine, and smiling people.

2) What is the best time to visit Ukraine? 

That totally depends on you. If you like hot weather, then welcome to Ukraine in the summertime. You and your lady can go to the seaside, have a boat trip, etc.

If you are not a big fan of bright sun and extremely high temperature, then the middle of Spring or the beginning of Autumn is the best time for you. Ukraine in Autumn is a magic place. The cities are mixed with green and yellow, red and golden leaves all around. And this colorful carpet of the leaves covers all streets and makes you believe that you walk on the trees. Certainly, if you are not afraid of heavy snow and cold air outside then come to Ukraine in Wintertime. Hence, you will enjoy celebrating the New Year with your lady.

Most noteworthy, do not forget to discuss it with your lady, so she will be able to take a few days off to spend the time with you.

Travel to Ukraine

3) How long should be your vacation in Ukraine?

The length of your trip depends on how many ladies you would like to visit (we usually advise our client to book the meetings with 2 or 3 ladies) and how many days the ladies can spend with you.  And that brings us back to our previous advice: Do not forget to discuss your trip with the lady you would like to visit. In case, if you are not an experienced traveler and you do not want to spend half of your trip looking for the hotel and you need help with transfers, flight tickets, and accommodation our own in-house travel agency, Simply Travel gladly assist you.

And do not forget to subscribe to our YouTube Channel if you want to get more useful tips.

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WISDOM FROM SIMPLY DATING: HOW DID THIS AMERICAN GUY MEET HIS UKRAINIAN WIFE?

October 24, 2019 by

Today I interviewed John S., an American man who is married to a beautiful Ukrainian wife. He told me his personal experiences in this journey and some wisdom in life. I think sharing his input will be very valuable on this blog.

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  • John had a marriage with an American woman when he was in his 20s.

Now John is 38 years old. When he was 25, he married an American woman. But that marriage only lasted for 4 years. They got a divorce when he was 29 years old.

This is what he learned from his first marriage:

  • His ex-wife was slim before marriage. But after the wedding, she became so relaxed that she decided to put on weight by not going to the gym and eating whatever she wanted to eat. In western culture, single women want to know “how to secure the ring”. After getting the ring, a typical western woman becomes complacent.
  • His ex-wife’s career ambition is an obstacle in that marriage because she worked 90 hours a week and didn’t value quality time with John. Due to the popularity of feminism, western women believe that their career success is very, very, very important. Consequently, they may ignore their family life.
  • His ex-wife doesn’t believe in traditionalism and patriarchy. Whenever John was trying to convince her to do something, she argued that John has “toxic masculinity”.

In the end, John and his American wife got a divorce because these two people’s value systems are incompatible, although they are both Americans.

  • John decided to marry a Ukrainian bride.

After doing extensive research on the Internet, John discovered Roosh V’s blog and forum which talk about dating Eastern European women. He realized that Ukrainian women are the most attractive women in the world.

In fact, John considered dating Asian women previously, but then he changed his mind because he still prefers Caucasian women (John is also Caucasian, so that’s fair enough). No pun intended. Remember: attraction is not a choice. John can only feel attracted to Caucasian women, and he figured out that Ukrainian women have the best looks.

More importantly, Ukrainian ladies have the best qualities in terms of personality as well. For instance, most women from Ukraine highly value family, education, virtue, and motherhood. They neither sleep around,  waste money nor compete with their men.

So, John was thinking about how to meet ladies from Ukraine. Initially, he was planning to live in Ukraine for a year or two. But that requires him to quit his high-profile job in Los Angeles; therefore, it wasn’t practical. John loves his job and doesn’t want to move to Ukraine.

Many western men teach English in Ukraine or run online businesses so that they can meet women in Ukraine (they learned that from Roosh V, the godfather of international dating). Since John doesn’t want to become an English teacher and isn’t interested in running an Internet business, he has figured out something else – he joined Simply Dating, an international dating website that introduces Ukrainian brides to western men.

“Joining Simply Dating is the short-cut because this dating site makes international dating very straightforward,” says John S., “I don’t want to spend several years in Ukraine, so I think the best way to meet someone suitable is to join an international dating site. After doing some research online, I have chosen SimplyDating.com because it’s a reputable and reliable dating site that introduces Eastern European brides to western men.”

  • How does Simply Dating work?

Creating a dating profile is nice and easy. Within a few minutes, your dating profile is ready and you can browse female candidates’ profiles immediately. Then you choose which member you’d like to talk to and send her a message.

Of course, an international dating site isn’t a charity (it’s a business), so you shouldn’t expect Simply Dating to be a free service. You are asking them to find a Ukrainian wife for you, so it shouldn’t be free.

Simply Dating also allows members to have a video chat. Many members attend online speed dating events and use matchmaking services on their platforms.

“I think the best feature is the 24/7 online support,” says John S., “Because I told the customer service team exactly what I was looking for, they helped me to find the right candidate fairly quickly.”

When online daters are on Simply Dating, they should not exchange their contact details directly without knowing each other reasonably well. According to the dating site’s policy, women can’t give their contact details to men without knowing men well, and all initial meetups between two members should be arranged by the dating website. This is the ideal way to ensure women’s safety.

Therefore, John bought an international tour package from Simply Dating and went to Ukraine to meet his lady. Because Simply Dating is a professional dating service. The team even helped John to book flights, accommodation, translators, and so forth. It’s a comprehensive service that helps western men to meet women in Ukraine directly.

John met Olga in Kyiv in December 2018 with the help of Simply Dating. Within six months, they got married. Now John and Olga live in Los Angeles.

  • John’s advice for men:

  1. If you aren’t serious, you shouldn’t join Simply Dating because Simply Dating is all about helping western men and Ukrainian women find serious, long-term and meaningful relationships.
  2. If you are serious, you should join Simply Dating because it’s a legitimate, reputable and trustworthy business. John has met the Simply Dating team in their physical office and he adored their professionalism, friendliness, and kindness.
  3. When your Ukrainian bride moves to America, she may realize that she is actually a very high-value woman because most women in America are overweight and unattractive, and then your Ukrainian wife may change her mindset and think, “I could have done better than this”. John is a high-profile PR executive in Los Angeles, so all of his friends are high-value men who are married to gorgeous women. Therefore, it’s not a problem for John – Olga can see that all of John’s friends’ wives are attractive women, so Olga wants to improve herself every day.
  4. Dating is harder in western countries nowadays. For example, Street Attraction was attacked by the BBC a few days ago. Street Attraction is an organization that teaches western men how to approach women in the street. Their dating coaches teach western men how to build a genuine connection with women in the day time. But a journalist from BBC pretended to be their client and attended their boot camp. Then the journalist deliberately made those dating coaches look very bad in the press, thereby shutting down their business entirely. Hence, online dating is probably the only way to meet women nowadays.

“If you haven’t figured out your love life yet and you are already in your 30s, you should totally consider marrying a Ukrainian mail-order bride because that’s the fast-track to a happy marriage.”

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